Friday, December 9, 2011


As the holiday season comes around so do conflicts over holiday visitation. If parents can't work together than they must at least keep the conflict from their children. You want their memories to be about the holidays and not about the conflict. Most of the time the Christmas break is divided evenly with one party having visitation on Christmas Eve and the other having visitation on Christmas day. That schedule is usual switched every year so each party will receive visitation on Christmas day every other year.

This schedule can be an opportunity for new traditions. Children will often see this as getting an extra day of Christmas since they will have two opportunity's to receive presents. I find that parents are more upset about this type of arraignment than the children. I have been told that even Santa can rearrange his schedule to allow Christmas Eve gift giving.

Parents can also agree to split Christmas day or even spend Christmas day together. It is always best if the parents can work together. If the court decides Christmas visitation than the individual desires of each parent may be ignored. Thus, why not try and work together.

If you can't agree than it is fine to let the court provide a more generic visitation schedule. That being said it is still important to keep the conflict from adversely impacting the children.

The Jewish and Muslim religious holidays do not follow the same calendar. As a result holidays fall on different dates each year. This can make planning more difficult. Although, since Chanukah lasts eight days it does allow both parents to spend time with the children on Chanukah.

Thank you for reading the Lerner Law Blog this year and have a wonderful holiday. The next five people who e-mail me between now and December 19, 2011 will receive a free gift from the Law Office of Scott Lerner. My email address is Please include your snail mail address if you wish to receive a gift. Good luck and have a happy new year.

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